It is very difficult to see much of any success in business, especially network marketing, if you don’t have a really strong self-esteem. A person with below average self-esteem may be able to have a bit of success but never the real success they really desire.


Low self esteem is an issue I understand. It was a big issue for me in the beginning. When you have low self-esteem, you criticize yourself and everything you do. You can’t move forward because you are too stuck analyzing everything you do.


You often feel self conscious and uncomfortable in public situations. Not only public situations but in social situations online. You would rather be a lurker and not speak up. What if I say something stupid or do something stupid? What if I forget what I will say? What if they don’t like me? What if they flatly reject me?


You find yourself feeling like a kid in school hoping you won’t be chosen last for the sports team in gym class. Yikes! Who wants to go there again?


These feelings of low self-esteem can make us either give up on our plans for success or they can go the other way and make us into someone who is always working and fussing over little details in our business that never really help us make much progress.


I’ll confess an example in my own case. A while back I finally started making videos. Previously my self-esteem wouldn’t allow it but I got started doing it a while back. My first videos were horrible and I did not publish them. In the process of making one video, I kept redoing it. Fussing over how I should speak and the words I would use. It was not perfect. Do it over!


My self-esteem wouldn’t allow me to let someone see me make a mistake. Well, the plain and simple fact is, WE ALL MAKE MISTAKES! When we show some of our mistakes we help others to relax a bit and realize that you don’t have to be perfect to be a success.


When you have a high level of self-esteem, you have the ability to laugh at yourself. You don’t beat up on yourself when something happens. A high level of self-esteem helps you have confidence in spite of mistakes. You can even take some of those mistakes and use them as teaching tools.


There are lots of ways to build self-esteem and that is why I am writing this article. I wanted to let you know about a new newsletter I am publishing. Esteem Power Newsletter is devoted to helping network marketers and business owners build self esteem using EFT, Emotional Freedom Techniques and other cool resources.


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“I’m doing GREAT and, to my amazement, things just keep getting better!” That is the way an old business associate of mine responded when people would ask, “How are you?”  I heard him say it many times during the time I was associated with him.


I loved that response so much I started using a similar version of it. When I first heard it I noticed the lift of energy among the group. His greeting effected everyone, including me.


This was a successful network marketing leader who was radiating a great energy. I thought, “WOW, what a powerful response to a greeting we hear many times a day.”


What are the responses people give when you greet them with, How are you?”   Most of the time I hear mid to low energy responses. Maybe you’ll recognize a few of these:


“I’m fine”
“I’m OK”
“I’m good”
“Not so good”
“I’m terrible”
“Still among the living!”
“Surviving”
“As good as can be expected”
“Still breathing”
“I can’t complain … I’ve tried, but no one listens”
“DON’T ASK”
“Fair to middling”

I’m sure you have heard lots of other responses. Some people will even tell you all the horrible things that are going on in their life.


Think about the principles of the Law of Attraction. What kind of abundance vibration or energy do you want to send out. Are those really the kind of responses you want to use when someone asks “How are you?”


What you speak about comes about. Hmmm.


Wouldn’t it be better to have a response like . . .
“I’m just WONDERFUL!”
“I’m AWESOME!”
“I’m GREAT”
“I’m EXCELLENT”
“FABULOUS!”
“FANTASTIC!”

Here is a funny one I heard recently:  “If I were doing any better vitamins would be taking ME!”


Try using really positive energizing words in your response.


Do you want to know a really cool thing that happens when I respond with “I’m just WONDERFUL!” or something similar?


My mood lifts a little each time I say it. Not only that but I can see it effecting the person I am talking to. They pause and smile and you can see them wondering what’s up. I have had people follow me around trying to find out why I was so happy.


Remember: To ATTRACT ABUNDANCE you need to vibrate GOOD ENERGY!!

Whether you realize it or not, Law of Attraction is always working. The words you use and the thoughts you are thinking effect the level of success and abundance you will have in your business. It is important to release the negative emotions and keep the energy in a positive state.


A few years ago I took a course on Law of Attraction from Michael Losier. I had took a couple other courses but it wasn’t until I took Michael Losier’s course that I really understood how to make it work. One thing I learned from Michael was that you first need to figure out what you DON’T WANT. Take a sheet of paper and draw a line down the center of the page from top to bottom. Then, on the left side of the page, make a list of everything you don’t want in your business. When you are finished with that list, go back and look at it. Next, on the right side of the page, take each negative thing on the list and change it to what you DO WANT.


These new positive things are what you want to focus on. There are times when that can be a challenge but it is important that you focus on abundant thinking. Turn these positive things into affirmations. I like to enhance my affirmations by tapping on the EFT points as I focus on the affirmations. You can use Emotional Freedom Technique to shift your energy to a more abundant vibration.


For more on EFT:http://abundanceofsecrets4success.com/blog/category/eft